Hey!
It's been a decade since I last posted a blog (at least that is how I feel in my mind). Today I have something a bit different from what I usually post. I don't remember if I mentioned this before, but I do not have a theme for my blog so I will simultaneously post anything that crosses my mind. Hence why this is going to be completely different theme. This is also my 40th blog post so 😊
Friendship.... We have friends, we all do. It is something we have but we don't think about it a lot. I have been thinking about this for a while and I have been having too many questions. I am not sure if there are definite answers to this and it is fine if I don't get any. This is a food for thought post. It is to give you a chance to think about certain stuff that we don't think about in a daily basis but thinking about it every once in a while will not kill you.
What is friendship? I have so many friends but till this day I am not sure what friendship actually is. This is because in my mind a friend is a person to whom you are some step closer than an acquaintance. Sometimes I think a friend is a person that you can share anything personal such as family matters and love. I am sure a lot of people reading this are my friends so is this how you think of it as well?
In the friendship, there is also the "being a friend". Do you need skills to be a good friend or just go with the flow? In my 20 years of life, this is the first time thinking about it and it is very strange. A lot of us are blessed to have amazing friends in our lives, but what about the minority of individuals that do not have friends or never experienced what having a friend feels like? Why don't they have friends? What was lacking in them that led them to this sadness. Of course there are those who avoid people to succeed with studies and what not. But those who do not have that intention, what happened to them?
We make friends in school, college, uni, work, etc. When we move one step ahead in life, (e.g. college to uni), we fear that we won't make new friends and it will be a struggle to make new friends. Let's be honest, when we move ahead we meet new people and make friends and then reduce communication with our previous ones. That doesn't mean that we unfriend our old ones, we just reduce communication. Are we (especially me) working too hard to maintain our old friendships while being in new ones? Do our old friends still want to be friends with us or cut the friendship and we are the annoying person from the past?
Sometimes, a lot of friends have disagreements in opinions and we learn to respect their opinions while politely expressing ours. How does this friendship last? Is it okay for friends to disagree on opinions? I think yes! But will this friendship last? As a human, how long can you keep sacrificing your opinion and listen to the one against? Disagreement can lead to hate. What if your friend isn't really your friend? Are they pretending to be your friend because they hesitate to step back? How would you know if your "friend" hates you and what do you do when you find out?
It is also not always the case that a friendship is "good" or "healthy". Sometimes it could be that the person you consider your "friend" is using you, materialistically. You are the path of their success but in a bad way. For example, you have a phone and your friend doesn't but he/she needs/wants to speak with their partner (bf or gf), are you their mean of communication/the phone provider of them but still tagged as "friend"? I don't mean to say that you should unfriend them if they want to use your phone. What I mean is, is this a healthy friendship where they are just getting the benefits from you without giving anything in return? In a lot of these cases we might encounter the person saying "I am so glad we are friends" or "I love you (as a friend)". Do they mean this for real? I presume no! Again, I am not saying about short favours every once in a while but I mean long term favours. As soon as they do not get what they need, it will not take them a second to turn their backs at you. Beware please!
I want to leave you with this last question to think about. Does friendship have a level/degree/parameter? Is there such a thing as very good friendship or weak friendship. Think about all of these...
I may have been mumbling a lot of crap. This post is completely different from what I usually post and pure honesty, it is unscripted, which means I have just put almost everything that has come to my mind and what I have been thinking the past few days. I still have some things in my mind but I am not sure how to put that into words so I will leave them out. Am I just talking bakwaas (nonsense) or this is actually something to think about? Please reassure me!!! I hope you enjoyed this post and I shall be putting more of these kind of posts in the future.
If you have seen my Instagram and Snapchat stories, you will see I mentioned that I will explain why this post went live today (Saturday) and not on Wednesday. Well... I have come to the decision again that I am going to post a blog once a week and that is on Saturdays. There are several reasons to be coming to this conclusion. First one is that I am short in time. After I have started 2nd year of uni 2 weeks ago, I barely get time to do anything other than studying. It is a constant pressure. I even had to almost give up things I used to do in a daily basis and just focus on my studying. I want to do better this year (not that I did bad last year) so I want to focus on my studies. Second, I want to post good content. I have realised that my recent few posts have not been a good quality and that is not the the standards that I want to be working at. I would rather less often but post good quality for you to enjoy and not become a "spam" in your feed or messages. Third, and I feel bad to be saying this reason but, I am running out of ideas. Blogging twice a week is like 2 ideas per week and I need more time to explore this world full of wonders and get new blog ideas. If you like my posts, do not fear my friend because I will keep posting blogs and if you hate them then tough luck mate! Reducing blog posts does not mean I will stop. I do not intent to stop unless something happens. If you have any ideas please let me know. I will appreciate it a lot.
On that note, make sure to check back every Saturday and I just realised this post was a bit too long... Sorry...
It's been a decade since I last posted a blog (at least that is how I feel in my mind). Today I have something a bit different from what I usually post. I don't remember if I mentioned this before, but I do not have a theme for my blog so I will simultaneously post anything that crosses my mind. Hence why this is going to be completely different theme. This is also my 40th blog post so 😊
Friendship.... We have friends, we all do. It is something we have but we don't think about it a lot. I have been thinking about this for a while and I have been having too many questions. I am not sure if there are definite answers to this and it is fine if I don't get any. This is a food for thought post. It is to give you a chance to think about certain stuff that we don't think about in a daily basis but thinking about it every once in a while will not kill you.
What is friendship? I have so many friends but till this day I am not sure what friendship actually is. This is because in my mind a friend is a person to whom you are some step closer than an acquaintance. Sometimes I think a friend is a person that you can share anything personal such as family matters and love. I am sure a lot of people reading this are my friends so is this how you think of it as well?
In the friendship, there is also the "being a friend". Do you need skills to be a good friend or just go with the flow? In my 20 years of life, this is the first time thinking about it and it is very strange. A lot of us are blessed to have amazing friends in our lives, but what about the minority of individuals that do not have friends or never experienced what having a friend feels like? Why don't they have friends? What was lacking in them that led them to this sadness. Of course there are those who avoid people to succeed with studies and what not. But those who do not have that intention, what happened to them?
We make friends in school, college, uni, work, etc. When we move one step ahead in life, (e.g. college to uni), we fear that we won't make new friends and it will be a struggle to make new friends. Let's be honest, when we move ahead we meet new people and make friends and then reduce communication with our previous ones. That doesn't mean that we unfriend our old ones, we just reduce communication. Are we (especially me) working too hard to maintain our old friendships while being in new ones? Do our old friends still want to be friends with us or cut the friendship and we are the annoying person from the past?
Sometimes, a lot of friends have disagreements in opinions and we learn to respect their opinions while politely expressing ours. How does this friendship last? Is it okay for friends to disagree on opinions? I think yes! But will this friendship last? As a human, how long can you keep sacrificing your opinion and listen to the one against? Disagreement can lead to hate. What if your friend isn't really your friend? Are they pretending to be your friend because they hesitate to step back? How would you know if your "friend" hates you and what do you do when you find out?
It is also not always the case that a friendship is "good" or "healthy". Sometimes it could be that the person you consider your "friend" is using you, materialistically. You are the path of their success but in a bad way. For example, you have a phone and your friend doesn't but he/she needs/wants to speak with their partner (bf or gf), are you their mean of communication/the phone provider of them but still tagged as "friend"? I don't mean to say that you should unfriend them if they want to use your phone. What I mean is, is this a healthy friendship where they are just getting the benefits from you without giving anything in return? In a lot of these cases we might encounter the person saying "I am so glad we are friends" or "I love you (as a friend)". Do they mean this for real? I presume no! Again, I am not saying about short favours every once in a while but I mean long term favours. As soon as they do not get what they need, it will not take them a second to turn their backs at you. Beware please!
I want to leave you with this last question to think about. Does friendship have a level/degree/parameter? Is there such a thing as very good friendship or weak friendship. Think about all of these...
I may have been mumbling a lot of crap. This post is completely different from what I usually post and pure honesty, it is unscripted, which means I have just put almost everything that has come to my mind and what I have been thinking the past few days. I still have some things in my mind but I am not sure how to put that into words so I will leave them out. Am I just talking bakwaas (nonsense) or this is actually something to think about? Please reassure me!!! I hope you enjoyed this post and I shall be putting more of these kind of posts in the future.
If you have seen my Instagram and Snapchat stories, you will see I mentioned that I will explain why this post went live today (Saturday) and not on Wednesday. Well... I have come to the decision again that I am going to post a blog once a week and that is on Saturdays. There are several reasons to be coming to this conclusion. First one is that I am short in time. After I have started 2nd year of uni 2 weeks ago, I barely get time to do anything other than studying. It is a constant pressure. I even had to almost give up things I used to do in a daily basis and just focus on my studying. I want to do better this year (not that I did bad last year) so I want to focus on my studies. Second, I want to post good content. I have realised that my recent few posts have not been a good quality and that is not the the standards that I want to be working at. I would rather less often but post good quality for you to enjoy and not become a "spam" in your feed or messages. Third, and I feel bad to be saying this reason but, I am running out of ideas. Blogging twice a week is like 2 ideas per week and I need more time to explore this world full of wonders and get new blog ideas. If you like my posts, do not fear my friend because I will keep posting blogs and if you hate them then tough luck mate! Reducing blog posts does not mean I will stop. I do not intent to stop unless something happens. If you have any ideas please let me know. I will appreciate it a lot.
On that note, make sure to check back every Saturday and I just realised this post was a bit too long... Sorry...
Take Care,
Yours, Nafiza
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